This Valentine's day I'd like to challenge you to give your significant other a gift that shows how much you value him or her. The gifts suggested here cost very little if any money. They do require that you give something of yourself. You may even be reminded of how you treated your partner when you were courting. Given in a spirit of love, these gifts send a messager that you understand and validate his or her needs as a man or woman. You may even want to show the list to your partner and ask which gift would be most appreciated.
Three Gifts To Meet Your Man's Needs for Validation and Appreciation
1- Arrange for him to watch his favorite sporting event without interruptions. Prepare and serve some of his favorite snacks. If you're a fan too, great! Join the fun and watch together. If not, spend some time watching the show with him. Find something of interest to ask questions about during the commercial or break in activity. Or, if there's a local event that relates to one of his interests, purchase tickets and go together.
2- Put on something sexy or an outfit he really likes seeing you in. Men are visual by design and like to see you in something appealing. Don't worry that you don't have a perfect body, he really doesn't care. He does care that you think he's desirable and that you want to entice him and look good for him. Take this a step further and give him a massage. Let it lead to something. Although it may be the male that usually pursues, once in a while he likes for you to initiate.
3- Give him a card listing at least three things you genuinely appreciate about him. For the entire day, or longer, refrain from complaining, nagging or giving him the evil eye. Feel free to genuinely compliment and praise him throughout the day. Remind him (and yourself) what you love and value about him.
Three Gifts That Support Your Woman's Need for Emotional Bonding and Appreciation
1- Give her 100% of your attention when she talks to you. Put down the paper or turn off the TV. Women know if you are only half-listening or pretending to listen. You may be pleasantly surprised at how calmly and quickly she says what's on her mind when you give her all of your attention. Listen and respond patiently and kindly. If she starts talking at a bad time, tell her and set a time that is good for you both (sooner rather than later). Then stick to it without making her ask or remind you.
2- Take her to that romantic movie or "chick flick", you know she wants to see. Most women love romance and want to share it with you. Plan the event yourself and make it a real date. Make all arrangements for a sitter if you have children. If you can't afford to go out, rent the movie. Prepare snacks or a nice meal for her. Of course, include some chocolates! And make sure you do the cleaning up after wards.
3- Finish at least one item on her Honey-do list. Or clean your living space. Many women find it very bonding and sexy when her man helps out around the house, especially when he initiates it or works happily with her.
The best thing about these gifts is that you can give them any time of year, as often as you like. There's no need to wait for a special holiday to show your special someone how much they are loved. You may just find in the giving, that you too receive the greatest gift of all in return, the love and appreciation of your partner in return.
