Top 10 valentine tips to stay happily married

1. "Show your partner why you are choosing them over everyone else."


2. "Present them with an IOU offering them a special service they'll love."


3. "Start a new tradition by writing a gratitude journal together."


4. "Send your partner a Valentine's Day card to their work or home address."


5. "Make a special connection through spending quality time together."


6. "Tuck away thoughtful notes where you know your partner will see them."


7. "Make your relationship better by openly listening to your partner."


8. "Do something you used to do as a couple when you first met."


9. "Give a gift that speaks your spouse's love language."


10. "Create a book for your partner highlighting special moments you've shared."

How To Make Valentines Day Special for the Man In Your Life

It is that time of the year again. It is the time when every man in existence begins to cringe. It is that time when they feel extreme pressure to make a romantic day for their loved one.

This year, why not take some of the pressure off your man and make him feel special. It is only right that you go beyond the standard gift of boxers or chocolate and make it a day of romancing him. After all, guys like being romanced as well.

Here are some cute activities to make his heart grow big and Valentine's Day special for once. Ladies, we want men to look forward to Valentine's Day and realize how great a day it can be when celebrating it with the one you love.

Go for the stomach
Remember how your mom always said that a way to a man's heart was through his stomach. Take note and make the day a day of delicious food for him. Start with heart shaped pancakes or chocolate chip pancakes. You can even just cook his favorite breakfast in bed, it will set a sweet romantic tone for the rest of the day.

Plan surprises
Guys love surprises too. These can be simple little sentiments throughout the day. You can scheme with co-workers to decorate his office the night before with balloons and streamers to add another shock. You can have his favorite coffee or lunch delivered to his office. Be sure to not get him fired in the process and only do appropriate surprises. You can even talk with his boss to arrange for a day off and plan a whole day of romance.

Plan some adventure
Guys love getting away from reality. Let's face it, they spend most days facing four walls in an office or cubicle. Make them feel appreciated by getting them out. Go to the local party place or arcade. Bring lots of quarters to let him lose himself in video games. If you are lucky, maybe he will buy you something with his tickets. Challenge him to a game of paintball or laser tag. He will like the adventure side of you.

Plan a massage
You know your man the best. If you think he would be uncomfortable, then don't schedule one. However, couples massages have become a good bonding time for couples as they relax their troubles away.

Rent a hotel room
Sometimes guys feel the need to get away as well. Hotels can be a cheap way to get a change of scenery. Book one with a indoor pool and hot tub so you can have some fun relaxing in the water. Order room service for dessert to make the night fulfilling.

Plan a romantic dinner
Guys like to be romanced too. You can plan a picnic in the part or candlelight dinner at home or in his favorite restaurant. Instead of showing with flowers, shower with itunes gift cards, chocolate, coupons for favors, or whatever he loves.

These are just a few suggestions. You know what makes your guy tick. Think back to when you first dated and his likes. Be sure to let him know he is loved and appreciated!

Inexpensive Valentine's Day Ideas

With everyone tightening their belts this year, there is no reason that Valentines Day needs to suffer. Quite to the contrary, building an evening of romance on a limited budget is a great exercise to show that love romance and intimacy is not tied to your wallet or pocketbook. Its simply about the two of you spending time together, sharing and having fun.

With everyones lives being extremely stressful this year, a great theme for Valentines Day is Teamwork! Use Valentines Day as a reminder of the basics: Whatever situation the economy has put you in, you are a team and can get through it together.

Here are a few tips to begin thinking about for this Valentines Day.

1. Lower your expectations.Like many holidays, we seem to build expectations of what would constitute the perfect Valentines Day. Anything short of that perfect vision then leaves you feeling unsatisfied. There are many things out of your control, understand that real life will more than likely interfere at some point.
2. Plan with your partner. We all like surprises and to see our partner make the effort to plan something they think we would enjoy. With life being extremely stressful this year, make it a team building exercise and plan it together.
3. Think communication. Last month, we found a store than sells bulk candy, including some of the cheap penny candies we havent seen since we were kids. We filled the bag, and plan on eating it on Valentines Day, talking about the childhood memories the candy brings back. Similarly, look through childhood pictures, yearbooks or mementos and the memories associated with it. Youll be surprised at how fulfilling it can be, and how much you can still learn about your partner.
4. Eating Out. Going out to dinner is a Valentines Day tradition for many. If its a tradition you would like to keep, begin searching your local newspaper now for Valentines Day specials. Also search online for coupons and specials. It doesnt sound sexy or romantic, but also doesnt leave you with regret the next day for breaking your budget. Planning it ahead gives you the opportunity to scout the best deals plan your budget and not be stressed about it on Valentines Day.
5. Eating In If you are planning on staying in, plan a meal you can cook together. A variety of small finger foods is great, since you can cook, nibble and talk all at the same time.
6. No TV, no movies TV and movies allow you to do one thing, watch. Think interaction instead. Ask friends if you can borrow a few board games that you dont currently own for the evening, so that you have a variety of different to choose from.
7. Mentally prepare With the stresses of daily life, it becomes hard to suddenly unwind and relax. Everyone needs downtime from the business end of life to recharge their batteries. Begin reminding yourself now that you are allowed to take time off from the worries of daily life and enjoy each others company.
8. Have a trial run Similarly to number 7, its hard to suddenly sit still and relax. Pick an evening or two before Valentines Day to spend some time together. Its only natural that sitting down and spending time together wil lead to discussions of work, finance and the kids. Planning on time beforehand allows you to purge yourself of those issues, and make Valentines Day about the two of you.

Valentines Gifts From the Heart for Your Significant Other

This Valentine's day I'd like to challenge you to give your significant other a gift that shows how much you value him or her. The gifts suggested here cost very little if any money. They do require that you give something of yourself. You may even be reminded of how you treated your partner when you were courting. Given in a spirit of love, these gifts send a messager that you understand and validate his or her needs as a man or woman. You may even want to show the list to your partner and ask which gift would be most appreciated.

Three Gifts To Meet Your Man's Needs for Validation and Appreciation

1- Arrange for him to watch his favorite sporting event without interruptions. Prepare and serve some of his favorite snacks. If you're a fan too, great! Join the fun and watch together. If not, spend some time watching the show with him. Find something of interest to ask questions about during the commercial or break in activity. Or, if there's a local event that relates to one of his interests, purchase tickets and go together.

2- Put on something sexy or an outfit he really likes seeing you in. Men are visual by design and like to see you in something appealing. Don't worry that you don't have a perfect body, he really doesn't care. He does care that you think he's desirable and that you want to entice him and look good for him. Take this a step further and give him a massage. Let it lead to something. Although it may be the male that usually pursues, once in a while he likes for you to initiate.

3- Give him a card listing at least three things you genuinely appreciate about him. For the entire day, or longer, refrain from complaining, nagging or giving him the evil eye. Feel free to genuinely compliment and praise him throughout the day. Remind him (and yourself) what you love and value about him.

Three Gifts That Support Your Woman's Need for Emotional Bonding and Appreciation

1- Give her 100% of your attention when she talks to you. Put down the paper or turn off the TV. Women know if you are only half-listening or pretending to listen. You may be pleasantly surprised at how calmly and quickly she says what's on her mind when you give her all of your attention. Listen and respond patiently and kindly. If she starts talking at a bad time, tell her and set a time that is good for you both (sooner rather than later). Then stick to it without making her ask or remind you.

2- Take her to that romantic movie or "chick flick", you know she wants to see. Most women love romance and want to share it with you. Plan the event yourself and make it a real date. Make all arrangements for a sitter if you have children. If you can't afford to go out, rent the movie. Prepare snacks or a nice meal for her. Of course, include some chocolates! And make sure you do the cleaning up after wards.

3- Finish at least one item on her Honey-do list. Or clean your living space. Many women find it very bonding and sexy when her man helps out around the house, especially when he initiates it or works happily with her.

The best thing about these gifts is that you can give them any time of year, as often as you like. There's no need to wait for a special holiday to show your special someone how much they are loved. You may just find in the giving, that you too receive the greatest gift of all in return, the love and appreciation of your partner in return.

What To Do About Valentine's Day

OK I have a confession to make to you. I have to admit that Valentine's Day has this way of sneaking up on me every year.

So THIS YEAR, I'm going to be intentional about giving you ENOUGH TIME to prepare for this the most infamous of holidays…at least as far as your relationships with women go.

Now sure, you know that deep down I'd love to join in the chorus of "macho" pickup and seduction experts that suggest you "just say no" to Valentine's Day and just tell the chick(s) you're seeing that you don't "celebrate" it.

Man, would I love to join that chorus.

After all, like I've shared in the past (as in, say, maybe a little under a year ago?) this is yet another holiday that appears to have been relegated to little more than a marketing bonanza for the diamond industry. And this no sooner than you swallowed hard and paid the credit card bill from Christmas.

But this time, I've done some thinking. And I'm all but sure that The Leading Man would rather take back Valentine's Day in a brazen coup than surrender it to commercialism and…God forbid…"Mr. Nice Guy".

That's right, instead of whining about how Valentine's Day forces us guys to "put a woman on a pedestal" or something, I exhort you to MAKE YOUR OWN RULES this year.

Embrace Valentine's Day…but make like Frank and do it YOUR WAY.

I say this because you, as a "Big Four" man, need to TAKE CHARGE and build the habit of creating romantic moments that melt women on a regular basis.

I say this because I've gotten a jolt of lightning recently that screamed out, "Wait a minute, stupid, every woman in North America is PRIMED-or make that HARD WIRED--to have her femininity ignited on February 14^th."

And I say this because, well, you really have no choice, buddy. Valentine's Day falls on a SATURDAY this year. Oh snap.

Face it, a couple of years ago, when V-day was kind enough to fall on a Thursday, I laid out a step-by-step plan on how you could literally date six or seven women at once and make all of them thrilled with you over a four day period.

This year, you can tear up that game plan. Saturday night is THE night. And there won't be any excuses.

This means several things.

First of all, if you have your sights set on one woman, it's a no brainer. You make plans with her for the night of the 14^th. And you go with the flow, enjoying the heck out of a nice romantic evening together with your favorite woman.

And if this describes you, you've been given a MASSIVE GIFT. You see, every single fancy restaurant and swanky dance club in your town is going to be BOOKED SOLID by a bunch of "Mr. Nice Guys" lining up to spend $$$ on that woman they are trying to impress.

If Valentine's Day is on a Monday it's crowded enough out there. But a Saturday? Are you kidding me?

This trumps even Valentine's Day on a Friday. After all, were that the case you might be able to get away with planning something for Saturday with her instead. But it's not like you can substitute Friday the 13^th for Valentine's Day and expect to get away with it. Bummer.

So you may be thinking you have to gut it out and fight the crowds for the sake of "tradition" or something. Forgettaboutit. Like I said, this is the year you're going to TAKE CHARGE and MAKE YOUR OWN RULES. Instead of "celebrating" Valentine's Day, start "celebrating" the woman in your life.

The year I met Emily, I did this to a certain degree by planning a BACKWARDS evening. That's right. I took her dancing at 7pm, hours before the crowds arrived…and caught dinner at 10.30 or so, long after everyone else was finished eating. All she remembers nowadays are the memories themselves, not at what time they happened.

But really, I think you can be even more creative than that.

If you live somewhere reasonably warm this time of year (like Australia, for instance) why not take it outdoors? Have you ever planned a moonlight picnic? If not, do it. You're only five days off from a full moon this year. Get away from other people and ignite that femininity in private.

And I don't want any e-mails asking, "But Scot, how do I ignite femininity? What does that MEAN?" Moonlight + Picnic + Feminine Woman + Masculine Guy = Ignition. That's all it takes.

And even if you live in the northern peninsula of Michigan (or even you, that one guy on my list who is somewhere in the friggin' Yukon Territory), you can find a place indoors where it's just YOU and HER and a bottle of red wine. Even if that's at YOUR place, Cook For Your Date fans.

This year, YOU'RE going to make the rules. You're going to take back Valentine's Day and replace commercialism with the REAL meaning: ROMANCE. Just you, her…the moment…and the memory. Take charge, make a creative plan that bypasses the masses…and enjoy the ride.

But what if you're dating more than one woman these days? Simple. Get out of town. Go on a weekend snowboarding trip to Sun Valley, ID. Send every woman a card and tell them you'll spend some "quality time" with them when you get back. And yes…considering Valentine's Day is on Saturday this year, I'm dead serious.

Finally, some of you are undoubtedly asking, "Well, what about me? I don't even have a date for Valentine's Day." Well guess what? Your concern is NOTHING compared to the myriad of women out there who are SCARED STIFFLESS that Valentine's Day is going to leave them dateless in its wake.

Women romanticize the living tofu out of February 14^th. And this is GREAT NEWS for you. Why? Because this means you have TEN DAYS to get your act together and make a difference.

And without a doubt, the best place to get that job done is ONLINE.

Seriously, gentlemen. Every single woman with an online dating profile is EXTRA MOTIVATED about now to make some serious time with a great guy online. This guy needs to be YOU. But here it is…it's like the lottery. You've got to PLAY to WIN.

Have you been considering online dating? If you have, then why not give it a try now...at what may be the perfect time of the year to see great success.

Ten things you should know before saying ‘Yes!’

Looking at the title of this article I understand that it may be misconstrued to talk about weddings, but though women say yes to that big moment in their life when we need to dress in white and think about making a public commitment to the man we say we love, we also say ‘yes’ countless other times when we give ourselves to a man we think we feel something for.

Relationships are a minefield, always, so it pays off big to know just why we say yes and what makes us do it and how we can best make the kind of choices that will ensure that each sexual encounter we have leads to, if not the best relationship in our lives, at least the kind of relationship which will not have us going to the Police to get restraining orders issued.
It can also lead to issues if you do not handle it right. It can also lead to issues if you do not handle it right.
The guidelines which follow are the sort of which may appear to be sensible at first sight but the very fact that we need, as women, to remind ourselves about them means that we are often prone to forget them and this can lead to no end of trouble.

So should you be at the point where you say ‘yes’ either literally or figuratively, with your actions, to the sex question then these are the reasons why you should not be having sex with someone you met:

1. If you don't trust your partner to respect your wishes if you change your mind about anything, you should not be having sex. Sex is a totally consensual act and as a woman you have the right to change your mind at any point of the proceedings. There is really no such a thing as ‘the point of no return’. It is your body and you have the last word on what happens to it.

2. Make sure that you are having sex for the right reasons. Emotional blackmail, such as “you said you loved me, I am so lonely, you promised you would”, or peer pressure, such as “everyone else is doing it”, are not appropriate motivations for having sex with a guy.

3. A recent study of sexual attitudes among 25 to 35-year-olds, carried out by researchers from Sheffield University, found that men thought it was acceptable to pressure women into having sex and to use alcohol to get them into bed. Be alert to both ruses not because you need to resist them, as such, but because if someone is using such tactics to get you into bed with them the chances are that you are not totally convinced you should be in bed with them.

4. Women, traditionally, are the ones who give in to pressure and have unwanted sex. Establish some ground rules for yourself. There should be a point where you make it clear that ‘no’ means ‘no’ and it does not mean ‘maybe’.

5. If you are not sure about your partner or if you have just met make sure you use a condom. Unprotected sex has been the main cause for the recent rise of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) in the UK.

6. If you don't feel comfortable discussing protection and contraception with your partner, you should not be having sex with them.

7. While not perfect, condoms are the most effective way of preventing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia and trichomoniasis. Condoms also provide some protection against herpes, syphilis and chancroid, but genital ulcer STIs can also be transmitted by contact with exposed infected skin. I know all this sounds horrific but closing your eyes to the possibilities and praying is the shortest route I know to actually getting an infection you do not want.

8. Condoms are not a particularly reliable method of preventing pregnancy either. The pregnancy rate among condom users is 12 per 100 women compared with three for oral contraceptives. However, you need to have been on the Pill for at least a month for it to be effective so if you have been out of the game for a while make sure you have this base covered too.

9. Be frank in what is happening and why. You are an adult and it is perfectly OK to fancy another person and want to go to bed with them even if you do not know them very well. Openness in your intentions and desires allows the other person to also be clear about what is happening and respond. Playing coy, hard to get or simply toying with someone you have no intention of sleeping with only sends mixed signals which can sometimes cause unwanted complications.

10. You should know what to expect but be careful about where you set your goals. Sex is a game played best by two people but you need to play by the same rules. If you want soft, romantic, easy sex and you meet someone at a bondage party the chances are that what you get is most definitely what you do not want.

Sex is a central aspect of our lives and ignoring longings and desires can cause deeper issues which range from the psychological to the physical. Like everything else though we need to take precautions and be very clear about what we do and why.

What Not To Tell Your Online Love

We all have been taught, “honesty is the best policy”. That is true, to a certain degree.

When it comes to online dating, some things are better left unsaid...at least in the early stages of the “relationship”.

Based on my extensive experience with online dating, this is what not to tell:

Do not tell them, that each of your children have a different mother/father.

Do not tell them you can’t afford cable, so you “share” your neighbor’s cable.

Do not tell them you’re really not sure who you father is.

Do not tell your online love you are in the process of being evicted.
(“I’m in the process of relocating. You may not be able to contact me for a few days.”)

Do not tell them you lost your job because your drug test was “dirty”.
(The problem may not be that you are a social drug user. The problem is you’re dumb enough to get caught!)

Do not tell them you never cook and that you live on fast food. (They have a mental fantasy of you being a fantastic cook and homemaker! Don’t burst their bubble so soon...)

Do not tell your online love you have mice, roaches and bedbugs. (Even though it may not be your fault, it still makes you seem nasty!)

Do not tell them you are about to inherit a large sum of money. In the beginning, you may not be able to tell if they are interested in you or your good fortune.

Do not make offers where you appear to be overly generous. (“You said you need a place to stay? You can stay here as long as you like! Rent? Don’t even worry about it!”) It makes you look really desperate and easy to take advantage of.

Do not begin the relationship by telling your online love all of the many ways you were traumatized as a child. (“I was molested for years...” “I was locked in the basement for days without food...” “my mother would get drunk and beat me for no reason...”) Instead of getting sympathy? They may feel you have too much emotional baggage, and they may not be willing to deal with it.

I am not telling you to lie to anyone. But when it comes to the truth about issues that are extremely personal, you want to wait until you feel this person cares enough to really care. (Does that make sense?) Everyone is not worthy enough to have a “key” to that intimate, personal part of your life. Just remember: In the beginning, there are some things you tell and some things you do not tell your online love!

How to avoid cliches this Valentine’s Day with your partner

With Valentine’s less than two weeks away we get into the familiar territory of guys trying to be either cool (which means we are going to go for the macho, I do not really believe in all this stuff) or romantic (cue for red roses, red heart balloons, evenings out and boxes of dark chocolates) and will face the familiar dilemma of what to get their girlfriends, wives and partners to celebrate a day which now contains more commercialization than Christmas.

Those who have mistresses (or see it as an opportunity to take their sex life up a notch) will go for lingerie because it’s fun, funny and helps make the point about commercialization), those who are stamped (yeah, what can a guy get a girl to make her notice him) will opt for flowers and chocolates and there will also be those who suddenly feel the urge to use the day for the bended knee here is a ring trick.

Valentine's Day is an opportunity to get past the marketing cliches and do something meaningful with your partner.

Valentine's Day is an opportunity to get past the marketing cliches and do something meaningful with your partner.
The repeated for added emphasis question here is why? Why? Why? Why should we suddenly feel the need to be more romantic, more expressive and more appreciative of love on February 14 than on any other given day of the year? Does life suddenly become simpler? Do financial worries vanish into thin air? Does sex become hotter? Do inhibitions that have been holding us back all year suddenly disappear?

The truth is that if you are really into your partner, if you love them and appreciate them you probably find ways to make them feel special, loved and wanted every single day of the year. From a glass of freshly squeezed orange juice in the morning to a cup of coffee brought in bed to a surprise evening out. These things take little major planning, do not cost the earth and as far as gestures of appreciation go are more in tune with love and loving than any bunch of red roses and red heart Valentine’s Day cards.

Still I understand that the pressure remains and we now need to do something because to do nothing is simply not an option (blame the media and girls everywhere for this state of affairs now), so you need to know what, right?

The trick here is to pull off the impossible and be original. Nights out are ok but unless you have Seine as a view (or the Niagara falls) and the chef has four stars in the Michelin guide there is little point in going for that. Similarly a transatlantic flight and a chartered jet kind of create the right mood and sense of being special but if it is possible for it to happen the chances are that it already has so we are back to square one. For originality here you need to apply reverse psychology:

1. Go out early for a movie (reverse the order of the process) and arrange for caterers to come at home. Not only will you get the full flavor of going out but suddenly you control the menu, the food and the setting right down to the right kind of lighting and music and (added bonus) the bedroom is not that far away.

2. Take the day off and just spend it together. You don’t need fancy gifts, restaurants, cinemas or presents when the whole day suddenly becomes yours. Go to the park, read the papers. Eat ice-cream (even in winter) and just enjoy each other’s company (and if you have kids find a way to get rid of them which does not involve becoming active in the white slave trade or homicide - remember you do want them back the net day).

3. Create a special gift just for your partner. It might be a photo-album. It could be an origami angel or even a special, intricate meal you have cooked just for your partner. It needs to be from you, it needs to involve the kind of effort which makes this a true ‘labour of love’ and it needs to be something you know your partner will like.

4. Think big. When it comes to special days and special presents (and Valentine’s Day certainly qualifies as Special) size really matters. I’d suggest you could book a venue just for the two of you but this is both grandiose and expensive (particularly on Valentine’s Day) so think big in other ways. Find the biggest card and the largest single chocolate money can buy (suddenly two old, tired cliché gifts are revamped thanks to the magic of size). Hire a limo for the day or even get a guided tour of your town or city (you’d be surprised just how many things you do not know about it). Have a picnic (weather permitting) and make it huge with chilled champagne, great food, fold out tables and chairs. Yes, I know it takes planning but hopefully this is exactly why you’re reading this guide right now, right?

5. Think creative. If you can write why not surprise your partner with a story, something which describes how you really feel about them? Try a poem but be really honest with yourself. If you have no real skill in this direction but like to dabble from time to time then this is not the way to go. Try making a video of your partner (and either edit it yourself or get it professionally edited), create a photo album of your special moments to date together. Create a scrapbook of something which is important to both of you. The cost here can be really small or really big. This is not what matters. What’s important is that you have thought about it in some depth. You have put in some time and considerable effort because it is a token of your love.

For better or worse (and yep you can also add for richer or poorer) Valentine’s Day is here to stay. Making it special every year is definitely a challenge for the couple who have been together for some time. It is also a challenge in times when there is little time or not enough money or both. This does not mean you’re off the hook though. Commercialized and cliched as Valentine’s Day may be it is still a great opportunity for you to make the most of it with your partner and have a fantastic time which will only help to re-affirm your relationship together and that is a great thing indeed.

Why Do We Fight When We Are In a Relationship?

Depending on who you choose to listen to a fight in a relationship tends to ‘clear the air', help ‘get things off one's chest' or may simply be ‘a sign that I care' but really none of these excuses really cuts any ice when you examine them a little critically.

Love, caring and affection have nothing to do with anger, yelling and (occasionally) physical abuse which brings us to the very obvious question: why does it then happen? Why do we argue? An argument is always a sign that things are wrong and the immediate cause of the argument has absolutely nothing to do with it at all.

When it comes to tracing why an argument has began I always counsel those I help to apply either the 20, 40, or 60 minute rule. This requires them to trace their argument back to 20, 40 or 60 minutes to the moment it started. This way they then are in a position to distance themselves from the flashpoint and begin to analyse the possible reasons the argument started.

When an argument breaks out between two people the reason behind it is very rarely linked to what has actually caused it the moment of conflagration and is more directly the result of stress, worry, fear and anxiety. For obvious reasons I discount here the element of one or even both of the partners no longer wanting to be in that relationship because that is a subject in its own right with huge trust and honesty issues involved.

So, we focus on the relationship that is ok, between two people who love each other and are committed to making it work. The moment an argument breaks out it causes hurt on both sides and feelings of frustration. It also, sometimes, allows tensions which may not be directly due to the relationship to work themselves out which is why we get the ‘clearing the air' and all the other nonsensical excuses I mentioned in the opening paragraph.

Provided you are able to take yourself back in time and retrace the events which have led to the argument in most cases you will be able to see that what has made the argument possible in the first place has nothing to do with your partner. It may be something which happened at work, it might be the state of the economy, worries over money, tension with a neighbour or even a change in the wind. The point is that by working through an argument like this you suddenly have the chance to better illuminate your own motives and way of thinking and the opportunity to suddenly stop external factors from ruining your relationship.

With this strategy each argument which breaks out suddenly becomes a golden opportunity to become another building block in a relationship which will withstand the test of time.

3 Great Ideas To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

To make a man fall in love with you is quite easy, especially when you put your heart into it.

You just need to understand that a man is a straightforward being, and will see you in how you present yourself for the first time.

Here are 3 basic ideas to make a man fall in love with you: 1) how you look, 2) how you act, and 3) how you present yourself to him. Now let's get started, ladies!

Idea # 1: How You Look

Normally, a man will usually judge a woman in how she dresses, put her make up, the perfume she's wearing, or even the way her lips move when she talks.

If you really want to make a man fall in love with you permanently, then bring out the heavy artillery into the open, figuratively speaking of course. Wear your sexiest dress, put on the most attractive make-up, get your hair done like a goddess, and arm yourself with scents that will turn his knees to butter.

Idea # 2: How You Act

You need to keep a tight rein on your actions when you start making moves with your intended target.

Be alert of your actions. Don’t let him have any clue that you might be nervous or tensed.

Keep a close eye on your partner's reaction regarding certain body movements or during conversation. You can practically read their body language if they like what they're seeing, or not. Change your tactic as you see fit.

Idea # 3: How You Present Yourself To Him

Many men aren’t into conservative women. They are often drawn into assertive ladies on the dance floor having fun with the rest of the people.

If you are one of those arch-conservative types, then you better throw your beliefs out the window and get in touch with your wild side.

Show some affection and tease your man for all his worth. Bring him to your way of thinking with suggestive looks, fluttering eyelashes, or even with a lick on the lips. If you are really in a daring mood, you can start touching him in safe places that will practically turn them inside out.

To make a man fall in love with you permanently, you need to be someone that catches his attention – physically, mentally, and emotionally in one sexy package.

Seven Keys To Lasting Love

t doesn’t matter how excited you are about your partner if you can’t stay on the same wavelength and keep a connection over time. Finding the right person is really less than half of what it takes to stay connected with someone. In working with couples and families over the past 18 years it has become clear to me that being in love, or even just loving someone, isn’t enough to keep the relationship going.

To maintain that magical feeling of love and special-ness in a relationship we have to be willing to take 150% ownership of the quality of the connection in our relationships. There are certain things we have to be willing to do and to continue doing if it is our intention to stay in love and in connection with our chosen partner.

The exciting thing is that it doesn’t matter if your relationship is only 6 months old or if its 20 years old, these things will work to deepen your connection. And, you don’t have to wait for the other person to do them, it’s not about what the other person does or doesn’t do. It’s about you deciding that you want to maintain that connection, and being willing to take that 150% ownership.

So here we go:

1) Love is an action: Show your partner how you feel about them every day, at least once a day. Do this even if you are in different states or countries. Show your care don’t just speak it. Saying “I love you” doesn’t deepen a connection unless it’s accompanied by actions. Leave love notes under your partner’s pillow when you are going to be out of town. Make sure the tires in his car have enough air in them before he leaves town. Hug her every time she walks in the door. Think to get her favorite flower once in a while, for no reason. Fix the leak in the bathroom he’s been complaining about. Wipe up the counter and pick up after yourself like she has been asking.

2) We are all kids at heart: Recognize that no matter how grown up your partner seems, they are really a little kid inside. (Oh yes, and so are you) We are all really just kids that have bodies that have aged. Inside all of us are the unmet needs of our childhood as well as the playful spontaneous joyful child that we once were. Throughout the time you spend with your partner, see if you can notice the kid inside them. Respond to that kid just as you would to a kid who has not yet grown older.

3) Bedtime sharing: If you live together, go to bed at the same time, together, every night. This is huge. That means turning off the TV, the night-light and the phone. This is your time together. Cuddle and talk, make love if the urge strikes but that is not the point. The point is to talk about your day, your worries, and your hopes. Discover that in spite of all the time you have spent together, you still don’t know each other. If you don’t live together, or are not together for whatever reason, talk on the phone after you climb into bed.

4) Don’t let things slide: When your partner says or does something you don’t agree with or that upsets you, tell them. Don’t just let it slide. This doesn’t mean making a mountain out of molehill, but be sure to give things that upset you the energy that they deserve. Pretending that something doesn’t matter doesn’t make it not matter. You may think it’s not important but over time these things add up and cause resentments and distance. You may not always have time to process the conflict at that moment, but at least let your partner know that you are having a problem and that you will need to discuss it later. When you go to bed together that night, discuss it, if you haven’t already.

5) You are not enemies: When you are in a conflict with your partner stop your arguing for a moment. Breathe deeply. Start thinking about what you love about this person, and what you are grateful for about them. Then remember that they are not your enemy. In the middle of a conflict it sure can feel that way. It can seem that they are attacking you and you are the victim. Instead of arguing your case back to them, listen to what they are saying and, more importantly, what they are feeling. Respond to what they are feeling. Own what you can about your part in whatever has upset them, this doesn’t mean agreeing with them, only that you can see that you have done something that upset them.

6) Touch well, touch often: Touch your partner as often as possible, and get them to touch you as often as possible. Skin to skin contact increases a hormone called oxytocin, the hormone of love. Oxytocin increases trust and a sense of safety; it reduces stress and increases sexual arousal. Most men and many women are touch deprived. In many cultures parents are taught not to “baby” their children and they interpret this as not cuddling them. Touch increases our overall sense of well being.

7) Play together. Be playful in your interactions. Have a sense of humor in times of stress. Find something playful to do that you both enjoy and make it a priority to keep it in your schedule. Play is critical to our sense of connection to others, and to our joy in life. In our culture we tend to get so serious and think that if an activity is not goal directed it has no purpose or meaning. Yet play expands our ability to think, develops creativity and gives us a sense of joy. Playing together in both structured and unstructured ways develops trust and engenders caring.

Staying connected requires time a commitment to the relationship. If you are willing to do all seven of these things, your relationship will flourish Even if you just do a few of them your relationship will fare better than many, certainly than those who first walk through the door of my counseling office.

5 Secret Ways to Show Your Love to Your Partner

There are many ways to express love to your partner other than quoting the actual words "I Love You." Usually the fire in relationships dies down after a while and the feeling of your heart pounding with the excitement of being with your significant other is not felt nearly as often, or even at all.

So, how do we get back that love, passion and warm feeling that wraps around us and penetrate our thoughts in the beginning of a relationship?

Many say actions speak louder than words so below I have listed 5 secrets of seduction to help you show your partner how much you truly love them:

1. Flirt

This is a light-hearted seduction with the intent of conveying love! Why not send a sexy text message or email while you are at work? This reminds the other person that you are thinking about him or her. It also increases the intensity of love so that you actually look forward to seeing each other when you return home from work.

2. Candles

According to Feng Shui, the seduction candle is red and the ingredients are musk, patchouli, pine, cedar and juniper. This secret of seduction can put back the romance in your relationships. Why not fill your room with scented candles and turn off the lights just to relax in each others arms? The extra effort goes a very long way!

3. Food

It is said that "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach," however this is also thought to be the secret of successful seduction of women too. Show your love by setting up a surprise dinner for two. Add flowers, soft music and incense to create a seductive love nest. Aphrodisiac foods such as oysters, chili, chocolate, figs, honey and walnuts are said to aid in the stimulation of your loved ones hormones.

4. Love Letters and Poems

Why not leave a love note for your loved one? This can be posted in the bathroom or kitchen before you leave to work. You could also leave a nice love poem under the pillow so that your partner finds this at night before bedtime or first thing in the morning. Or send a hand written love letter to their work address. This will stir up the feeling of love in the privacy of your bedroom as well as in your relationship. Inspiration can be taken from music or love poem books.

5. Get Away

There can be a lot of distractions in your relationship such as work or children. There are many short vacations available for the weekend or just for a day. You may arrange a trip to the Health Spa or a Hotel so that you are in a different environment than usual where you can both relax and concentrate on each other.

Using the five techniques above to show your significant other just how much you truly love them will certainly spice up your love life, strengthen your relationship, and keep you and your partner happy for years to come!

How to Tell Your Partner You Love Them

Remember the words from an old song...

"Be sure it's true when you say I love you, it's a sin to tell a lie".

The concept of "sin" has lost its meaning for many in our modern era, and even "love" has lost a significant portion of its importance.

If you still believe in "falling in love" then you will realize how difficult it is to say, "I love you" in a meaningful way. Three little words that can change your life forever. The words, themselves, have lost their meaning because of overuse, especially when it's not really true. Everybody says them, for many different reasons, even if they don't mean them.

However, when you really want tell your partner of your love it's such a hard decision to make for many reasons. Will your partner return your love? Will your partner simply accept your declaration with indifference? Will he or she feel threatened? It is such a common problem that even "The Seinfeld Show" had an episode on it.

So make it easy on yourself and plan the declaration so that as much as possible you eliminate the problems. The first step, of course, is to be certain you really are in love. If you so enjoy being with your partner that you want to be with him or her to the exclusion of all others, if you think of him or her every day when you are apart, you are probably in love. If you have even a small doubt you should wait a little longer.

If you are certain then plan a special occasion for it. Make it a significant moment in your life - one to remember with fondness for your whole life. Arrange an intimate dinner at your favorite restaurant and make it as romantic as you can. Give him or her a small gift because you love being with them, or you are so glad that you met them.

After dinner while holding your partner intimately gaze intently into their eyes and say, "I love you so much it hurts when we are apart. I hope that we can stay together forever".

Do not be disappointed if your partner does not return your declaration. They may not yet be ready and might need more time to state their feelings. Continue to share with your partner the highs and lows of your partner's life. Care for your partner's happiness and be on guard to protect his happiness.

Under no circumstances should you ever ask your partner, "Do you love me"?

7 Unfailing Laws of Happy Relationships

Despite all our training in life, we seldom learn about the knitty gritty of relationships, what the simple laws are that make them all we want them to be. Discover some of the laws in this article and learn what steps to take to make things right.

Most think that relationships exist to make them happy. When they find that special person, they believe that love will naturally grow. But in relationships we encounter everything, challenges, joy, fulfillment, loss. Yet, despite all training in life, we seldom learn about the knitty gritty of relationships, how to build the relationship in a way that brings out the best in all.

To start this process, there are 7 simple laws we can learn and use. These laws will act as guideposts, helping us to choose wisely and to avoid costly mistakes.

Law #1 - There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available wherever you are.
Many live with the idea that love is scarce -there's not enough to go around and that they must cling to whatever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. (If you don’t have one, it is because you are keeping it away). It is never necessary to cling to someone out of fear of being alone.

Law # 2 - Know Who You Are And What You Really Want.
Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they’ve been denied. But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. Otherwise, you can lost in a relationship, become a pawn in someone else’s world.. A healthy relationship is an expression of two people, both equally valuable. In this kind of relationship you discover all you have to offer and how to offer it.

Law #3 - Don't Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You.
Some find, to their amazement, that they choose the same partner, over and over again. Relationships patterns repeat as well. This is called the repetition compulsion. It is the unconscious need to repeat a situation over and over until we master it or it turns out the way we want it to. This compulsion keeps some people stuck in a bind.

If you are caught in this, see what this pattern is doing for you. Actively choose different places to go and individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.

Law #4 - Enjoy Honest Communication.
Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don't pretend to be someone you're not to make another happy. Don't give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The bedrock of all happy relationships is mutual respect and acceptance and open, honest, communication. Ask for what is important to you. Find out what is really going on for your partner. When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.

Law #5 - Don’t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person.
Let everyone be who they are, including yourself. So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Changing another is not your job. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.

Law # 6 - Know Difference Between Real and Counterfeit Love.
Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It's infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over, it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy.

Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn "to"do love". Do love and you will be loved. in return.

Law #7 - See the Best In Others - And In Yourself.
What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points (and let them know about them), you can be certain the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity. Often it can just fall away on its own.

Law #7 ½ - The Master Law. When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue
Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You've come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don't see it as failure. Don't see it as loss. Don't try to control when time comes to go. Realize that if the person is supposed to be with you longer, they will return on their own. The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it's time to let go, thank the person for all you've received from them and let go.

Seduction Techniques - How to Seduce a Woman

Every man whims of doing his best to impress his wife or girlfriend when it comes to seducing her. Most often many of us think it is a very difficult proposition. Seduction is basically knowing your partner well and determining her interests. Read on to learn how you can master the art of seduction with just some simple basic techniques.

Seduction does not require any sort of practice or training or advert solutions. What is needed is your better understanding of her wishes and interest zones. If you are thinking about reading this article and aiming to jump directly into the bed, then I would say I am sorry my friend, I can't help you with that. What you require here is patience and self control. If you want to enjoy the fantasies that lie post seduction then you would surely need to get your act together, draft a wining strategy and be calm and patient. Here are just a few techniques which would help you achieve what you intend to achieve:

Appearance
Appearance is the first impression for anything and everything you imagine of doing with anyone. Before approaching a woman, make sure you are dressed to perfection. If you are at home you can wear a nice sky blue t-shirt or if outside you can opt for anything bright that suits you. Don't forget to wear a good cologne as it would just drive her to believe your perfection.

Communication
Don't even think of seducing a woman when you two didn't had any sort of communication. Communication is very vital before going for the kill. Your charm, your gentleness and your manliness must flow with your talk. Don't be stubborn and keep praising yourself. Try to talk to her about her interests and what she thinks about life. Let her know (make her know) that you are deeply interested about her and her views about anything and everything. Talk to her and let her know that you value her dreams and you wish they come true for her (don't lie, be honest and say that with all your heart). Please don't talk about physical anatomies or sex instead concentrate on pleasingly emotional talk. Have a soft tone while talking, rough tones would surely scare her into imagining anything. Also, make sure you don't point out her weaknesses, you can however make her know that past doesn't matter and the future would bring her all the happiness she has ever desired. Having a good communication session over dinner would just set the stage up for you.

Flirting
After an introductory round of communication you can think about having a exotic round of flirting. Make sure that you don't go overboard when trying to flirt. Be very sure that she is really bothered and interested in your flirting because it might not just be the right time (you know all the girly stuff). If everything is normal, just go for it. May be just a spicy talk about love and simple pat on her backs (o_O) would do the needful. If you are sitting, you can play the leg games or give a sweet warming touch to her hand and if situation-wise possible - even play with her fingers.

Body Language
Now did I hit the sweet spot here? Body language is the most crucial aspects of flirting with a woman. Have a sluggish body language and you are bound to lose before you start. Body language involves communicating without the use of any spoken language rather it consists of using your body to the most effect. Don't start staring at the fruits right from the start, instead try to look at her eyes deeply, then slowly her nose and finally (yes finally) her lips. While looking at her eyes, gently place your right hand on her neck and make her feel special. If you two are sitting on a sofa or a couch, be sure you are leaning slightly towards her. However don't try to do that when standing. When you are standing and when your eyes arrive at her lips, slowly make a move forwards. If you are lucky the kiss would commence.

There is no fixed formula as to how you can actually end up successfully seducing a woman, however with a honest and sincere approach you can surely get close. Try to be yourself and not someone else because that is exactly what your girl wants from you. Don't be a copycat, draft your own moves and implement them. You might not be the perfectionist but your attitude and your true efforts are all that would be needed to win her heart.

The Secret To Attracting Love Online

We all have the ability to attract love anywhere and everywhere. We just have to know how!

The secret to attracting love online is...

Knowing! Knowing who we are...Knowing what we want...Knowing where to find what we want!

Do you know who you really are? If not take the time needed to find out before going any further. Once you know who you are, you will need to know what you want. Can you honestly say you know what you want? The majority of the Singles go online without a clue as to who they are looking for.

Once you know the “who” and the “what” then you have to know the “where”.

The secret to attracting love online...is finding exactly where they are. You want to be patient enough to take the time needed to browse, and browse until you find the Singles that fit the specifications of who and what you are looking for.

Begin by browsing the largest online dating sites. I would pick 2 or 3 sites to work with.

You may even want to pick a few of the “specialty” sites. The ones that cater to more specifics based on age, race, religion, etc. You might want to pick 1 or 2 of these sites also.

With all of the online dating sites you decide to use, keep notes. Within your notes, list the site and the User Names of the Singles that catch your attention.

At the end of your free trials, review your notes. You want to join the site/s that has produced the best results for you!

A Guide to Understanding Women

Women are mysterious, beautiful creatures but even they cannot understand themselves at times. Do you believe it is impossible to figure out what goes on in a woman's mind? Read on to learn more about understanding women.

Women might be among the most beautiful creations on this planet but they sure aren’t easy to understand. Not many men can claim to have figured out what goes through a woman’s mind. In fact this is the biggest complaint of most men – that they cannot understand their women. To truly understand a woman perhaps what is needed is to recognize the basic differences in men and women because it is these differences that make women think and consequently act and react differently.

• Women look for safety and security in the world while for a man the world is a place to compete. In today’s world the woman might not entirely depend on a man but she does need the comfort and protection of the man (no matter how vociferously she might deny it) So she is on the lookout for a man who is not only capable of caring for her but also emotionally strong.
  

• When a woman finds that security in the form of the right man her inner urge to take care of her man and her world takes over. This is why women pay so much attention to detail and beauty, they not only are particular of taking care of themselves but also their man and their house. Everything in the woman’s immediate environment is an extension of who she is and so she takes care of everything that is precious to her. This is also an important part of her femininity. Appreciation from her man means a lot for her and so she also needs frequent reassurances from her man about her appearance among other things.

• Most men have heard enough already about the need of women to communicate. But this need arises from the desire of the woman to connect with those around her. Talking, touching, looking all help in expressing and attaining that connection for her. So being a good listener can really help the man in better understanding and appreciating women.

• It is also important to understand that talking in itself is a deeply cathartic process for women. Since men tend to be instinctively competitive and more or less result oriented they look at talking as a way to finding solutions. In fact any problem immediately needs to be resolved from a man’s perspective and talking about it cannot really serve any purpose for most men. For a woman however it is important that she understands the problem and the perspective of her partner on any issue. Solution is not essentially what she is looking for. A woman feels truly understood when her man just hears her out.

• For a woman sex has a lot to do with intimacy and this is what makes her picky about letting in a man. The way their bodies are made and the changes in their bodies during the sexual act mean that sex is a way for them to communicate and connect with their men at a deeper level. Sex can never be only sex for most women. It has a huge emotional impact on women. This is also what sadly makes them deny sex to their partners in the event of a fight.
  

• What women look out for most in their life is a man who can provide them with physical, emotional security (someone who is faithful) and economic stability. She wants someone she can depend on so she might date the "bad boy" but she is bound to marry the nice, stable man in the end. And for the woman the word nice does not mean submissive behavior. She wants someone who can make up his own mind and is independent since these are often associated with the masculinity in the man.

• Women want the man to do the chasing and that is why most women play hard to get in the initial stages. She wants assurance that she is attractive and she will turn on the charm even with men she is not in the least bit attracted to. She will often play mind games like taking your number and not calling you. Women also make the men wait while dating just to see how desperate the man is and how interested he is in pursuing her.

• Some women also play manipulative games such as wearing revealing clothes and acting touchy on dates and then backing out leaving their date hot and bothered. This is just a part of her desire to see how much power and control she can exercise over the man. One of the most irritating traits in a woman is that she expects her man to read her mind. This is again just a ploy to see how much her man cares about her.

Ways to Get a Girl to Like You

Do you wonder what it takes for a girl to like a guy? Are there some steps that you can follow to achieve the same. Here are some simple ways to get a girl to like you.

Is there some way you can get a girl to like you" Many people might think that money, designer clothes and fancy cars can do the trick. But there are many women who will agree that money and status is not everything. Women seem to instinctively know whether they like a particular guy and whether the relationship has a future. Therefore it is all the more crucial for men to use the initial interaction to their advantage. Here are some simple ways to get a girl to like you:

• Don’t try to impersonate someone else or pretend to share common interests and hobbies just to impress the girl. Be confident about who you are. The girl is bound to take interest in you if she sees that you are perfectly comfortable with yourself. Proudly display your interests and unique skills so that it sets you apart from the crowd. If the girl notices that you have your own life and friends she will appreciate you much more. Girls do not like men who are needy and clingy.

• Try and be well dressed. It does not need to be designer clothes but do make it a point to look neat and presentable. Body odor turns off women so be careful about that. Good first impressions matter.

• Be a good listener and ensure that you have something interesting to contribute to the conversations. If you listen well, acknowledge what she is saying with nodding of the head and she will realize that you are genuinely interested in her and all that she has to say.

• Don’t spend all that precious time in bragging about yourself. Women do not appreciate ego centric individuals. While a woman may appreciate your high achievements you really do not need to talk about it all the time.

• When you meet the girl that you like don’t forget to smile and make eye contact. A warm smile helps break ice and then you can start off with some casual conversation. Don’t worry about what impression you are making on her, just relax and enjoy the moment.

• When you are meeting a girl that you like pay attention to her, compliment her for her beauty, her unique qualities and be sincere in paying the compliments. Don’t sound as if you are trying to score some points through idle flattery. Do simple things for her that she would appreciate. Eg: Taking her to see the favorite opera that she has been raving about for some time or taking her out to her favorite food place.

• Be chivalrous by offering her your arm while walking or guiding her through the crowd by lightly touching her arm. You can easily display your warmth towards her without being sleazy. If she displays any signs of discomfort, stop!

• Nothing attracts a woman quite as much as a man who has a good sense of humor. Be innovative in the jokes and she will always appreciate your unique quality to maker her laugh. As she gets comfortable with you eventually you can let her know of how you feel for her.

• You should be balanced enough to understand when to say what. A woman will appreciate a man who knows when she needs him to be there for her and also a man who can give her the space that she needs from time to time. Display your trustworthy, sensitive side and she is bound to like you.

• Let her know that she can depend on you and also show her your vulnerable side from time to time. If she finds it easy to relate with you then she surely likes you.

How to Make a Guy Fall in Love With You

Love is a beautiful emotion that cannot be forced. However with some guidance you can increase the possibility of finding your match by learning about what men are looking for. The article that follows will help you with pointers on how to make a guy fall in love with you.

Every woman dreams of finding her soul mate and having that perfect relationship. Life becomes easier when you get to share it with someone who cares deeply for you. However meeting your perfect guy and getting him to fall in love with you takes some time. So if you are worried about how to make a guy fall in love with you then you need some guidance. With some simple pointers you can easily achieve that. To make a guy fall in love with you, you need to know how to approach him and interact well with him.

Confidence
A confident woman is a huge turn on for men. Confidence is an indicator that the woman knows herself well and can take care of herself. Men like women who are self assured and independent. It means that you accept yourself as you are. Confidence also adds to the beauty of the woman and she radiates positivity. A confident woman can offer a lot of space to her man in a relationship and that is one of things that men desire the most in the relationship. Men do not appreciate women who become clingy in relationships.

Consistency and Trust
If you want to make a man fall in love with you then you need to be consistent in your thoughts and actions. You should also seem trustworthy to the man. If you seem consistent in your thoughts and actions then it means there would be alignment between your words and actions. A man will fall in love with you if he senses that he can trust you and depend on you.

Femininity
Men love women who are feminine and girly. A feminine woman takes cares of her appearance and her health. Her feminine nature is also an indicator of the fact that she will take care of her friendships and other relationships. Men also like women who pay attention to them and display interest in them and pay compliments to them.

Ambition and Purpose
Men appreciate women who have a purpose and ambition in life. They like women who know what they want in life and who are serene about everything that happens around them.

Humor and Fun
Not only should a woman be ambitious but she should also know how to let her guard down from time to time. Women who possess a good sense of humor are a big hit with most men. A good sense of humor is an indication that you can laugh and enjoy yourself and that makes you irresistible. Displaying your fun side is a sure fire way to make a guy fall in love with you.

Show Interest in Him
To attract a man in your life you need to show that you are genuinely interest in his life. Also if the guy learns that you are passionate about your own interests and hobbies then that can also increase his curiosity and appreciation. Flirt with him and that will definitely give him the positive signal that you are interested in him.

Display Your Own Style and Individuality
Be well dressed because men always appreciate women who are stylish. Let it not be too fashionable. Just wear something that looks good on you, something that displays your assets and that makes your looks smart and different from the crowd. Be yourself and that will surely make someone fall in love with you. Don’t try to imitate anybody. If a man knows that you are genuine then that will surely make him feel attracted to you.

Patience
Patience is surely a virtue. Do not rush into things too soon. Don’t pressure him or become too possessive and clingy. That will only make the man want to run away. Don’t try to control the guy in any way. Allow him to be just who he is and he will always appreciate that in you.

The Reason Online Dating Works

We probably all know why online dating doesn’t work, but I want to let you know the reasons online dating does work.

The main reason online dating works is because of the vast number of eligible Singles that are online. If you can’t find what you want on one site, you simply move on to the next site.

If you are out “clubbing” you will have a very limited number of Singles to choose from. While online, there are literally millions of singles!

Another reason online dating works is we are able to totally “drop out” of the picture if we are being pursued by someone we have no interest in.

Unfortunately, if we are being pursued offline, using a club as an example, we can be followed from the bar to the dance floor to a table even all of the way to the parking lot!

But online, we can simply choose to stop responding! If the pursuit turns into harassment and stalking, we can have the site administrator totally block them!

Another reason online dating works is that we can “qualify” a person before deciding whether or not we want to get to know them better. While offline we can ask a lot of questions and if we don’t like the answers we are rarely rude enough to look someone in the face and say; “thanks for your interest, but I am not interested in you. Bye...”

I find that online dating has a lot of “safety features” that work in the favor of the Singles! You just have to know what these “safety features” are and how to use them!

Love Making Tips and Techniques

In love making understanding the needs, desires and fantasies of your partner and fulfilling them is very important. A little bit of change can spice up your love life and this article will help you do just that with some wonderful love making tips and techniques.

A relationship after some time tends to become boring and predictable. Studies have shown that a good love life can actually deepen your relationship with your partner even further. So how do you go about improving your love making techniques" Following are some fabulous love making tips for women and men that will help them to spice up things in the bedroom.

Communication
Communication they say is extremely crucial for the success of any relationship. It is equally important in your sex life as well. While moaning can make your partner feel like he/she is doing all the right things, actual communication can serve the purpose even better. Make sure you ask your partner what he/she likes. Let your partner know that you care about his/her pleasure and pay particular attention to your partner’s response in bed.

Romance
It is important to set the mood and create the atmosphere. This can help you get your partner to respond to your moves. Women in particular appreciate men who take the effort to please them. You can soak in a scented bath together whispering sweet nothings. You can also create a romantic setting with some candle light dinner and music. You can give your partner is sensuous back rub or a massage. Small changes such as dim lighting in the bedroom or scented candles and satin sheets can create the mood. Wear something sexy and it will drive your man wild.

Honesty
Don’t be a prude in bed. Enjoy each other’s body without embarrassment. Honesty will help you have a wonderful sex life. Try different positions and let your partner know what turns you on and where you like to be touched. Try and understand your partner’s fantasies and fulfil them.

Element of surprise
Love making tips need not always be elaborate or complicated. Surprises can work wonders for your sex life. Walking up to your girl and holding her, nuzzling her neck and telling her how beautiful she looks can have the right effect. Ladies if you try playing footsie with your guy then the dinner might just seem less interesting.

Appreciate your partner
Appreciating your partner can be among the most effective love making tips. This can help you not only enjoy some steamy love making sessions but can also ensure that you connect with your partner on a deeper level. Men and women like being appreciated. As a woman grows older the changes in her body and the pressure to always look good can make her feel insecure about her appearance. Appreciation from her guy about her looks and about the way she takes care of the house and the kids can help her feel good about herself. If the man can manage to extend the appreciation beyond the bedroom in the form of flowers and love notes then it can just deepen the love and emotions between the couple. Men also want to be appreciated for their hard work and doing that can help you reconnect with your partner and you might just be able to find the spark again.

Change
Change can sometimes act as a catalyst in improving the relationship. If you have always made love on the bed then perhaps you can try something new. You could make love in some other room. If you have always made love at night, this time round you could try making love in the afternoon. You can even up the ante and use some sex toys. Just remember to talk things out before you try something drastically different. Sex is supposed to be fun so just take care that it does not seem uncomfortable or humiliating for either of the partners.

Important Sex Tips

• Sex should be relaxing and a way to reconnect with your partner, so take your time while making love. Let it not be a 10 minute affair all the time. Let humor be a part of your love life as well. The key to a fulfilling sex life is to enjoy each moment and each other.
• The importance of foreplay really cannot be stressed enough. This is one of the most crucial love making tips for men. Many men have been guilty of rushing into things. It is important for men to realize that women take much longer to get aroused and better and longer foreplay can allow the woman to enjoy sex just as much. If you perfect the art of foreplay then she might just not refuse your advances the next time round. Also since women can have multiple orgas** you can extend your love making sessions by giving her a few orgas** and then moving on to the actual sex act.
• Some of the most erogenous zones in a woman include her neck, the ear lobes, nipples, belly button and the famed G spot. You can have your lady asking for more by kissing and nibbling on her neck and ear lobes. While you are at it you can also sensuously massage her back and shoulders. Kiss her back and neck and her shoulder area as well. Women love it when their nipples and breasts are stimulated by hands and tongue. Don’t forget to pay attention to her breasts and you will have her moaning in no time. Belly button is another area that should be stimulated as should her thighs and calves. The G spot has achieved fame and notoriety of mythic proportions, so if you are successful in locating and stimulating this tender area then you might just end up having a night of love making like none other. This tiny area is shaped like a 2 pence coin and is located on the vagina roof on the side close to the stomach. It can be found around 4 inches in the vagina. Be gentle in stimulating this area.
• Finally guys don’t just fall asleep after a love making session. It’s really not much fun for the woman and she might just end up feeling used. Instead you can just cuddle up to her for a few minutes and tell her that you love her. And girls don’t deny your men sexual pleasure just because you have had a fight. Instead you can work out your issues in bed and who knows you might just end up having some explosive sex. Just be safe and have fun.

The Problem With Online Dating

One of the main problems with online dating is the extensive selection that is available. With so many singles we find ourselves getting caught up and involved with so many of them.

We would save a lot of time and emotions by being more selective. That way we are available for the Singles that fit our “must have” list.

Online dating is not like your local bar and grille where you may have a selection of 7-10 eligible singles on a good night!

Online your choices are endless! If you don’t find who you want on one site? You just move onto the next singles site.

Start with your list of “must haves” and begin shopping! Take your time...the Singles aren’t going anywhere!

Another problem with online dating, you can never be sure the photo of the person is really the person you are corresponding with! But I think that is a small risk for the quantity of singles you will have access to.

But look at it from the other direction. The Singles you meet in public could be giving you the wrong name, the wrong age; their current relationship status could be a lie. So, if someone is going to lie, they are a liar. Whether online or off...a liar is a liar!

That is the reason I ask so many questions. If that offends some of the Singles? Too Bad! I have a right to know what I am dealing with from the very beginning. If the Single you are giving the “Third degree” to has been online dating for any length of time, they will understand your skepticism. If not...oh well...Next!!?

How to Make a Girl Fall in Love With You

Have you ever gone through an intense experience of falling in love with someone? Love is such a wonderful thing that cannot be learnt or done thoughtfully. There are certain signs of being in love, which could help you understand your feelings.

Making someone fall in love with you is not as simple as walking into a shopping mall and picking up an item of your choice. But neither is it as complicated as arithmetic. To make a girl fall in love with you, you need to display your best qualities and understand what women really want in men. Here are some pointers that can help you understand what is needed to make a girl fall in love with you:

• You can make a woman fall in love with you by creating a favorable first impression. If you can stand out in the way you talk, dress and do things then the girl is bound to feel curious about you. Dress decently but have your own style and be confident. Be suave and sophisticated not only in your attire but also in the way you talk. Women cannot stand men who use obscene language and who appear to be uncultured and uncouth. Hygiene is equally important so ensure that you are clean shaven and smell good.
  
  
• Understanding the girl you are attracted to is important before you make the moves on her. Women need to know that they are loved, adored and needed by men. As you befriend the girl you will get to know her likes and dislikes. Love that is built on friendship is mature and can be more successful since people take their time in knowing each other and do not rush headlong into any relationship. While you befriend her do not hesitate to show your feelings for her from time to time. Be supportive and helpful and be present whenever she wants someone. This will make her enjoy your company and crave for it. Be a good listener and show a genuine interest in what she has to say. While talking to her look in her eyes as this will show that you are sincere in what you say.
  
  
• You can make a girl fall in love with you if you make her feel special. Compliment her for all the good things you see in her. Let her know that you think of her often. Don’t try your seduction techniques too soon. Be a gentleman and she will respect and love you even more for that. It will also let her know that you are a patient individual. If you try to make a pass at a woman too soon then she will peg you to be a sex starved person.
  
  
• Be romantic because women love to be courted in style and treated with respect. Do not flirt or brazenly eye other women while you are courting your girl. The only way to make someone fall in love with you is to let the person know that she has all your attention. At the same time don’t behave like a doormat. Women generally look for men that can stand up for themselves. Also be expressive about your feelings since women appreciate sensitive men who are open about their emotions.
  
  
• If you drink then keep it to a minimum level. Also ensure that you come across as a dependable person through your words and actions. Space is also important for building a healthy relationship. It will not be easy to make a woman fall in love with you if you act too clingy or display insecurity about her old acquaintances and friends.